Needs Underlying Controlling Behaviour

When you hear someone acting in a controlling manner, or telling people what to do or how life should be, understand they are trying to gain a sense of worthiness and competence. What they say gives them the feeling of importance and significance. Attacking them if you disagree will create defensiveness and the need persists. Acknowledging them and "hearing them out"allows them to obtain their need and then let go of their need to defend their point of view.