Significance
People receive their feeling of significance (competence, effectiveness, purpose) through
1) being right - someone in this space does everything they can to prove their point and prove others wrong.
2) being "better" - someone in this space either explicitly or implicitly strives to either raise themselves by gaining credentials, status, wealth, knowledge and "better" principles and beliefs (feeling more right) so that they can consider themselves better than others (internal) - or, they either demand attention and/or respect from others or else put others down or discount others to make themselves feel superior in some way or feeling being more right than others by wronging others (external). The third means is associating or affiliating oneself with an existing "high status" group or community (race, sect, religion, organisation, etc) that makes one feel more significant than other groups (internal if not explicitly expressed and external if explicitly expressed).
3) being controlling (external) or being in control (internal) - External: this comes as form of controlling people in the form of micromanagement, giving advice or telling others what they should be doing. Internal: doing what one wants to do and being in control of one's life and actions.
4) having a greater purpose beyond self - someone in this space lives for a greater purpose beyond themselves, some form of service to a cause that they find more important than their own personal goals and feeling more connected to the rest of humanity and higher purpose.
Which is the most positive and sustainable of them all that also promotes happiness and well-being?
1) being right - someone in this space does everything they can to prove their point and prove others wrong.
2) being "better" - someone in this space either explicitly or implicitly strives to either raise themselves by gaining credentials, status, wealth, knowledge and "better" principles and beliefs (feeling more right) so that they can consider themselves better than others (internal) - or, they either demand attention and/or respect from others or else put others down or discount others to make themselves feel superior in some way or feeling being more right than others by wronging others (external). The third means is associating or affiliating oneself with an existing "high status" group or community (race, sect, religion, organisation, etc) that makes one feel more significant than other groups (internal if not explicitly expressed and external if explicitly expressed).
3) being controlling (external) or being in control (internal) - External: this comes as form of controlling people in the form of micromanagement, giving advice or telling others what they should be doing. Internal: doing what one wants to do and being in control of one's life and actions.
4) having a greater purpose beyond self - someone in this space lives for a greater purpose beyond themselves, some form of service to a cause that they find more important than their own personal goals and feeling more connected to the rest of humanity and higher purpose.
Which is the most positive and sustainable of them all that also promotes happiness and well-being?
Labels: motivation, significance
posted by Dr. Ehssan Sakhaee at 9:08 PM
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