The birds of paradise see no difference between you and I, so then why do we separate ourselves into what is not whole yesterday we spawned from that same soul. Today we keep saying "I, I!!...mine, mine!!" Just as the proud drop claims it owns the ocean.
To learn to love and let go is one of the greatest spiritual practices of life. Love is the universal substance of life and by projecting and objectifying it, the ego may be overwhelmed by its power.
Does the tail of the elephant ask to be the trunk? Does the sea ask to be the sail? For all things are part of the greater Whole. Each needing the other to function. Never ask why I am not like that or he or she is not like this. Do not label thing as good or bad. The man's rectum is as necessary as the eye. All have a unique function which make the Whole function as a Whole.
Much of our lives we spend expecting everyone to have such perfectly aligned ego-spirits free from faults and flaws. Yet we ourselves possess in abundance faults and flaws that we often ignore and are not willing to acknowledge.
Inward work is by far more important than outward expressions. Many resort to the art of pretense in order to achieve what they seek. Though this cannot hold and will only serve as a temporary and often futile method. In time the inner expression will give way. Hence spend the time working on the inner so that the outward expression is made right naturally without effort. The outward expression should always be a reflection of the inner. Even when the outward expression results in failure, one realises the real work is to be done on the inner, rather than the art of pretense.