Every Possibility has to be Realised

If every possibility has to be realised, then whatever you are experiencing is a possibility that had to be realised in this world or another, no matter how small the chance. The only thing to be done is to confront and deal with the situation effectively. 

How Presence is Lost

 Even a mild thought can deprive one of presence, leading to unconscious behaviours. Total alertness is required at all times specially in situations when some form of clinging or aversion may arise (seeking or escaping). Both forms create mild instability leading to unconscious behaviours that lead to ineffective outcomes. The only remedy is constant vigilant awareness to the breath and body. This could be when one is by onself or when with others, high presence is required in higher stake situations. 

What is Expected vs What is Essential

What is essential is not necessarily what is expected. When one brings into play what they think is essential over what is expected, they take leadership. There is a causal disruption that creates a new paradigm and over-rides the old with the new - where the new is what is needed, and generally not what is expected. Change occurs not for the sake of change but for the sake of betterment and advancement.

Heart-Work & Hard-Work

Effectiveness requires heart-work as much it does hard-work.  In fact before any hard work, the heart work ensures the hard work is focused on the right objectives and for the right outcomes.

Operating Effectively (Values)

Operating from values rather than operating from our environment is key for effectiveness, integrity and authenticity.  The environment is forever changing in often can experience turmoil, but values remain steadfast.

Operating Effectively (Attitude)

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To become effective you need to come back to a place of curiosity and compassion towards self and others, it may require you to detach yourself from your identified “self” to the state of pure consciousness that runs through all “good and bad” – it is through this state that you need to begin observing.

What To (Not) Tell An Angry Person

Never ask an angry person to do anything other than to calm down. No action would be fruitful in an angry person.