The Wrath of Expectations

How can you be free if you are burdened by expectations from others to be the way you want them to be rather than the way they are? Wanting them to be more respectful, kind, loving, attentive, or whatever it is that you believe they lack? Free yourself of expectations so you can enter the freedom that only comes from letting go of wanting others and the world to be the way your mind wants it to be. 

Unmasking the Ego

 Is your ego hiding behind your “niceness” or your “compassion”?

Observe it. Notice it. You don’t need to fight it off or deny it. Simply accept that it is there. Observe it with intense presence and awareness.
Create a non-judgmental space to hold it with acceptance.

The Ego's Endless Thirst for More

The ego's natural state is more or better. It never ends. When you fully accept the nature of the ego (mind) and simply rise above this constant striving, you'll find peace once again. 

The Human Mind's Business

 The human mind is constantly in the business of increasing its utility, pleasure and minimising its pain. It it's limitless pursuit, it create more suffering for itself and the world. 

Just a Glance

All it takes for the ego to lose strength is a glance - just a kind curious glance. That is all. 

The Moment You Catch the Ego

The moment you catch your own ego trying to achieve something or avoid something, is the moment you are freed from it. 

The ego will always try to do one of these things - but you can always cultivate presence to see this happening in real time. 

How to treat the ego

Be loving towards the ego but not subservient to the ego. 

When the Ego Speaks

When the ego speaks...know that it is pain speaking. Whether yours or others, when the ego speaks through you or another, know that it is hurt and separation speaking. When you recognise this, the only natural response is compassion, not judgement. 

The Moment I See Ego in Another

The very moment I see the ego in another 

It is my own ego seeing, complaining.

The only thing to take care of and observe 

Is my own ego. 

This observation alone is the pathway 

Toward dissolving my own ego and theirs. 

Only the Ego can Hurt and Be Hurt

Only the ego can hurt and be hurt. Never does the spirit. 

The Trap of the Mind

Our desire to be liked by our own and other people's minds and egos is one of the major dysfunctions of our world and a great source of suffering. The mind and ego are designed for judgement, not for acceptance, not for compassion. That is the job of the heart. The moment you relinquish the need to be accepted by the human mind (yours and others'), you gain access to freedom. You also get direct access to the heart.

What the Ego and Spirit Seek

The ego seeks things

The spirit seeks transcendence 

Ego Entanglement

Ego entanglement is when your own ego gets entangled with the ego of others. It is the ego's position that conflicts with the ego position of others and the ego is interested in proving its own perspective as true. How do we spot the ego? By looking at the voice in your head, telling others how things should be, how they should be, and what is right and what is wrong. That is the voice of the ego. Observe it so that you first entangle yourself from it and thus entangle the ego from the ego of others.

Kingdom of Heaven and Hell

 The Kingdom of Heaven is within you. 

So is the Kingdom of Hell. 

Our Common Flaws

 When we recognise and acknowledge that we all have egos and flaws, our sense of unity and oneness increases. 

The Beginning and End of Suffering

All suffering begins with the false claim

of “I am somebody separate from others”

And all suffering ends with “I am nothing but part of the whole of creation” 

Don’t Think So Highly of Yourself

Don't think highly of yourself, if you show a glimmer of kindness and then become cold at the slightest sign of ignorance or coldness from others or the world. Your ego is still reigning supreme. 

When You Observe

Whenever you observe the ego, smile, in presence, in love.

Don't Get in the Way of Love

Don’t let your ego

get in the way of love

for though love is vast

it can be rapidly blocked

by the shadow of the ego

just as a small cloud

blocks the rays of the sun

so does the ego

block the rays of love

leave your ego outside

when you enter the house of love

let your ego go

in the majestic presence of love

Ego in the Way

Every time you are not feeling joy for the happiness of others regardless of your condition and situation, look within - it may be the ego is getting in the way.