At Any Moment You Can Either Choose Love or Fear

 An any moment you can choose love, or you can choose fear. You cannot choose both simultaneously. One is about survival. The other, service. You can't be in both modes.

Choosing Gratitude

At any time in life, one can choose a hundred reasons why one can't be happy with one's life, or with life. But equivalently there are a hundred reasons why one can be happy by seeing the good in one's life - in life. The choice is yours.

When Things Go Wrong

When things goes wrong, you can either blame and hold onto or reflect and let go. You are the choice-maker. 

What You Can & Cannot Do in Life

What you can do in life is

1) Choose your values, goals and way of life
2) Choose who you want to have relationships with in life
3) Inspire and help others to live better more meaningful lives should they wish to do so

What you cannot do in life is

1) Choose other people's values, goals and way of life
2) Force people to be in or not be in certain relationships
3) Force others to live the life that you think is best for them

The Illusion of Control

Sometimes we actually think that we are in control of life. The reality of the dichotomy of "free-will" and choice and predeterminism is so very real and incomprehensible by the rational mind.
The reality is that prederminsm and randomness are coexisting at every level of existence.

Levels of Freedom

There are several levels of freedom. 

Level 1. Freedom of expression : allows you to be YOU without concern of others judgement . However this level of freedom does not guarantee that you will not be angry at others for being then 

Level 2: Freedom from judgement : this level of freedom also frees you from judging others and so you become compassionate and non judgmental.

Level 3: Freedom to choose - freedom to choose how to respond to situations and events from a cognitive and behavioral level. 

A questions about Choice

If a possible choice item does not arise in the mind, then it cannot be consider a choice at that particular point in time. It can only have been a choice if this choice was realised at the point of decision making.