Judging Behaviour vs Treating the Cause

The best you can get by judging or punishing "bad" behaviour or mixing identity with bad behaviour is a sense of shame, which does not lead to sustainable wellbeing or sustainable outcomes. 

What works better is to address the underlying causes, resolve issues at their root cause and lead with compassion - this is aligned with sustainability and wellbeing. 

Judgment : The Only Obstacle To Love & Peace

 Judgment is the only obstacle to love and peace. Without it love and peace are your natural state. Wellbeing is your natural state. 

Enhancing Wellbeing

You can enhance your wellbeing and resilience by inducing positive feelings (joy, love) and not trying to escape (i.e. instead tuning into) negative feelings with curiosity and compassion.